Sunday, October 30, 2016

October is Domestic Violence Awareness - 10 of the Facts We Must Know

For most of my life I was under the false impression that if a woman had married or chose to live with a man, children or not, if she wanted out she could just leave. Rather or not he was an abusive man would be of little consequence, 'h-e-l-l-o', "leave." If she didn't leave I thought well some part of her must want to stay rather it be the attention she received when he wasn't being abusive, her social status, her income status with him, maybe she wanted her children to be in a family regardless of what was happening to her....

Then I met a woman, that did leave and was going through a lot because of it. Her abuser followed her, showed up at all of the family, friends and social places she had ever been or known including her new job, endangering the only chance she had of staying free of him. She told me of some of the situations she had been in since leaving. I was scared for her and there went my assumptions from the last three decades. Meeting her changed my views on many things but it wasn't just what she said. I decided to educate myself. Here are ten facts we do not hear enough about concerning domestic violence.

More than 1 in 3 women and more than 1 in 4 men in the U.S. having experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.

Most cases of domestic violence are never reported to the police.

Those who have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner report at least one impact related to experiencing these or other forms of violent behavior in the relationship (e.g., being fearful, concerned for safety, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) symptoms, need for health care, injury, contacting a crisis hotline, need for housing services, need for victim’s advocate services, need for legal services, missed at least one day of work or school).

The most common age when intimate partner violence is first experienced by women is age 18-24, followed by age 11-17, age 35-44 and age 45+. For men the most common age is age 18-24, followed by age 25-34, age 11-17, age 35-44 and age 45+.

Almost half (48.8 percent) of all men have dealt with some sort of psychological aggression by an intimate partner. This number is equal to women at 48.4 percent.

A married woman cannot get state aid, in most cases, to help until she gets settled into a job because they are still connected to their abusers income.

Drew Peterson, the man made famous on T.V. for killing his wife and getting away with it (for a long time), is only one of the many men that kill their spouses or domestic partners.

In most cases if a woman leaves her abuser and takes her children, her spouse, the abuser can press charges for kidnapping.

When a woman flees from her abuser, with her children - the abuser wins the custody battle 70% of the time.

My information was found in the true story and the nonprofit foundation below. Also other domestic violence sites.

If you or someone you know is looking for help in any abuse situations or need a shelter please click Find Domestic Violence ,

Article by Eden Strong . True story of Eden Strong and her children.
RFTA Nonprofit . The only nonprofit in Chicago to help abused women with legal issues.


  1. CJ Across the AvenueOctober 31, 2016 at 11:05 AM

    This is an important issue. I've witnessed this growing up and it's a lot easier to judge the situation when you aren't in it. It's so important to spread awareness of the resources that are available to support people in these situations. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Great information - it's so important to share this and let others know that they aren't alone!

  3. I have known several women in these types of situations. It is definitely not easy--This really has to be stopped by law in all states and in all countries around the world!

  4. Those are all great facts. As a survivor myself, this is a great cause!